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theautisticcoach

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I’m Matthew and I build international neuro-affirming autistic communities thru empowering my fellow autistic humans with advocacy methods & self-care tools for navigating an NT world based on productivism. ထ
🟠 My personal interests include #History #Autism #Meditation #Urbanism #Cooking #Whales #Jazz #Korea #Socialism #Judaism & I’m a passionate Pizza 🍕 Coffee ☕️ Deli 🥪 enthusiast
🔵 #AuDHD #ActuallyAutistic #AutisticLiberation #Neurodivergent
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How do my comrades KNOW when they’re dysregulated?

@actuallyautistic

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What is RSD, really?

https://www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-blog/what-is-rsd-rejection-sensitivity-dysphoria-autism

@actuallyautistic

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Society pathologizes autistic "special interests" which we use to self-regulate. It also mocks us.

Everyone deserves to have their passions respected and valued, especially when they are essential for our wellbeing.

@actuallyautistic

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How do my comrades react to their things being misplaced or moved?

@actuallyautistic

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Autism is a disability.

This isn't controversial.

It doesn't make us morally despicable.

@actuallyautistic

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The non-disabled (and their allies) wish disabled people would simply stop existing.

That we would just die.

Disability threatens the core of the non-disabled weltanschauung

@actuallyautistic @disabilityjustice

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Shabbat offers a powerful model for self-care

A (semi)structured day of rest, sensory relief, and community connection

Embracing this sacred time can enhance well-being, providing a predictable sanctuary from the week's chaos

@mazeldon @actuallyautistic

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Starting next week

@actuallyautistic

https://www.theautisticcoach.com/newly-diagnosed-autistics-group

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Autistic masking leads to significant harm to an human's sense of identity & mental health

It is a survival strategy that forces us to prioritize NT expectations over authentic self-expression, often leading to profound self-alienation & diminished self-worth.

@actuallyautistic

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The Autism Industry must paint humans in a certain light in order to justify their products and abuse.

Those of us who believe in the Neurodiversity Paradigm are a threat to their commodification of our bodies and minds.

@actuallyautistic

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Media stereotypes about humans need correcting.

BIG TIME.

Which one bothers you most?

@actuallyautistic

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What do my comrades do to practice self-care when there is no way whatsoever to have your needs met or triggers removed?

@actuallyautistic

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What’s the biggest myth about autism that my comrades have come across in the course of their self-advocacy?

@actuallyautistic

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@roknrol @actuallyautistic absolutely - it promotes the idea that those of us who don't have them are less worthy of life.

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Join me next Sunday for my FREE DISCUSSION CIRCLE for adults over 40

This month’s topic - Autistic Masking

https://www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-discussion-affirmation-circles

@actuallyautistic

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How do my comrades know when they’ve “peopled” too much ?

@actuallyautistic

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We need to talk more about mental health in the community.

What topics specifically should be addressed more openly?

@actuallyautistic

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We often run into miscommunication issues, not just with allistics, but also other comrades.

What barriers do you face in communications?

@actuallyautistic

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I’m hosting a FREE discussion circle & support group for comrades in their 20s and 30s tomorrow

Camera on/off - voice/text - COME AS YOU ARE

https://www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-discussion-affirmation-circles

@actuallyautistic

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This week’s Torah portion is extremely relevant to our current situation

https://www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-spirituality-blog/the-autistic-parashah-kedoshim

@mazeldon @actuallyautistic

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What does “unmasking” mean to my comrades?

@actuallyautistic

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When an human shares their life and thoughts with you, it’s because they like you, feel safe with you, trust you.

If you use that opportunity to make them feel small, refer to them as self-centered, or reject them, you really don’t know the first thing ✔️

@actuallyautistic

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Our emotions tell us a lot about what’s happening in our lives.

Because of people telling us that we emote wrong and alexithymia, however, we lose touch with them. Then we get bullied for being “emotionless”

How do you get in touch with your emotions?

@actuallyautistic

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@AutisticMumTo3 @actuallyautistic indeed. And many more ignore their emotions to their detriment

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Dive into a specifically AuDHD space with me!

Together, we'll explore strategies for thriving in a neurotypical world, understanding our unique brains, and building a supportive community.

All of my workshops are open to all autistic humans, whether formally or self identified. They are pay as you can, so that everyone who wants and needs support can get it.

https://www.theautisticcoach.com/audhd-group-autism-adhd-life-coaching-group

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Autistic humans challenge societal norms not just by existing, but by redefining them.

How has your journey and Neurodiversity influenced your view on what “normal” means?

@actuallyautistic

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Bullying doesn't just hurt humans in the moment - it has long-term effects on our mental health.

Studies show that autistics who experience bullying are at a higher risk for anxiety and depression.

Yet we are somehow “privileged” & get “too much leeway”

@actuallyautistic

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Autistic Masking involves suppressing our true thoughts and feelings to fit in and feel safe.

Have you found environments or communities where you can lower your mask?

@actuallyautistic

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Autistic Masking is a daily reality for most of us, requiring energy that can be exhausting.

What strategies have helped you reduce the need to mask?

@actuallyautistic

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Are my comrades ever told to “stay on topic” when you voice your point of view and it contradicts the views of the NT person in the convo?

@actuallyautistic

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Autistic Burnout is more than just fatigue - it's a profound exhaustion that comes from the continuous effort to navigate a world not designed for neurodistinct minds.

Understanding and support are crucial in managing and mitigating its impact on our lives.

@actuallyautistic

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Masking in folx isn’t just hiding who we are.

It’s a response to societal demands for conformity.

Let’s shift the focus from changing autistic people to changing the environments that demand masking.

@actuallyautistic

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The push against ableism isn’t just about individual rights.

It’s about dismantling broader systems of oppression that marginalize neurodistinct individuals daily

@actuallyautistic

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Respecting personal space is vital for everyone, but for folx, it can be even more crucial.

Unsolicited touch can overwhelm our senses, leading to distress or overload.

Always seek consent—it's a simple act that can make a world of difference to us.

@actuallyautistic

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Inclusion isn't just about access, it's about understanding.

What steps can we take in our synagogues to better support our neurodistinct members during services?

@mazeldon

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Exploring the intersection of neurodiversity and Judaism can deepen our understanding and appreciation of both.

How has your Jewish community embraced neurodivergent members?

Share your stories!

@mazeldon

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@project1enigma @mazeldon how could it be improved?

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Our journey through the landscape continues, and I invite you to be a part of the conversation.

We’ll navigate the depths of our experiences, discuss self-advocacy, and celebrate our community’s tapestry of lived experiences. Together, let’s explore what it means to live authentically autistic.

Join me for a series of workshops where we unmask the beauty of our neurology, understand the waves of our emotions, and find strength in our shared paths.

📅 Tuesdays: April 30, May 7, 14, 21 & 28
⏰ Times across time zones for convenience.

Your story is invaluable—let’s hear it.

https://www.theautisticcoach.com/autistic-self-advocacy-unmasking-exploring-the-autistic-self

@actuallyautistic

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The thing labeled as “executive dysfunction”' in humans is actually a response to feeling unsafe or overwhelmed.

How do we create environments that feel safer and more accommodating, helping to naturally support focus & organization?

@actuallyautistic

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Something I often hear from comrades is that we often perform emotional labor to stay safe, interpreting and managing others' feelings at a high cost to ourselves.

Do you experience this?

How do you navigate these demands while protecting your well-being?

@actuallyautistic

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Passover is a time of liberation and reflection.

How can we use this season to further advocate for autistic liberation and acceptance?

What changes would make the most significant impact in your life?

@actuallyautistic @mazeldon

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the idea that autistic people can't manipulate and lie is wrong - it happens all the time - it's a form of masking and one that helps gets short term needs met, albeit in a dysfunctional way that ultimately leads to long term needs not being met

@actuallyautistic

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What does Passover have to do with Autistic Liberation?

https://www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-spirituality-blog/autistic-torah-passover

@actuallyautistic @mazeldon

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What subtle signs do my comrades notice when they’re nearing a sensory overload?

@actuallyautistic

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Do my comrades have GI/tummy/stomach/digestive issues during times of dysregulation?

@actuallyautistic

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Are you an comrade working in tech?

Come join my free monthly discussion group to connect with others who get it

Back from hiatus!

https://www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-discussion-affirmation-circles

@actuallyautistic

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Are you seeking connection with fellow autistic individuals who understand your journey? Do you desire an autistic coach and guide who truly comprehends the challenges of navigating a neurotypical world? Join us to explore and embrace your autistic self in my 5-week autistic life coaching program!

Regardless of whether you were diagnosed early or later in life, you may have spent years suppressing your autistic identity and conforming to neurotypical norms. Our focus will be on self-advocacy, unmasking, and cultivating self-care and self-regulation techniques. Let's embark on this empowering journey together!

My autistic peer support coaching groups are built in order to create community and bring together like-minded autistic people looking to grow their autistic self. We are all looking to find or get further in touch with our inner lives and unmask and live authentically.

Everyone will have an opportunity to share, to speak, to contribute, and to grow together in the small autistic communities we build together. All sessions are held on Zoom (virtual).

@actuallyautistic #ActuallyAutistic

https://www.theautisticcoach.com/autistic-self-advocacy-unmasking-exploring-the-autistic-self

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Being is like being Jerry and Kramer at the same time.

@actuallyautistic @actuallyaudhd

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